Perfectionism Therapy in Connecticut

Do you constantly feel like you're not doing enough, no matter how much you achieve?

Is your mind always racing with to-dos, second-guessing, or fear of making a mistake?
Do you tie your worth to your productivity, performance, or ability to “keep it together”?

Perfectionism can be an exhausting cycle of overthinking, self-criticism, and pressure to get everything just right. You might look successful from the outside, but internally you're running on stress, anxiety, and a fear of falling short. Whether it shows up in your relationships, career, or day-to-day decisions, perfectionism often leads to burnout, procrastination, and a harsh inner voice that’s hard to silence.

If you’re tired of chasing impossible standards and ready to find a more compassionate way to relate to yourself, perfectionism therapy can help.

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Hours
Monday, Tuesday, Thursday, Friday
12pm–7pm

Location
Virtual, Connecticut

How Perfectionism Impacts Your Life

Perfectionism isn’t just about having high standards. It can impact your thoughts, emotions, and body in ways you may not even realize.

You may notice…

  • Racing thoughts, overanalyzing, or replaying conversations

  • Trouble sleeping or relaxing without guilt of not doing enough

  • Tension in your jaw, shoulders, or stomach

  • Avoiding tasks until you feel “ready” or know it will be perfect

  • Feeling irritable, drained, or on edge all the time

  • A fear of failure so strong it leads to procrastination or burnout

Many perfectionists appear outwardly calm and competent, while silently managing constant pressure, shame, or anxiety. You may feel like you always have to be “on”—productive, helpful, put together. You may be afraid to let others down by saying “no” to volunteering or working overtime. But living in that state of high alert can wear you down over time, leaving you stuck in a loop of stress, avoidance, and self-doubt.

Therapy offers a space to step out of that cycle, explore the roots of your perfectionism, and build new ways of relating to yourself with more compassion, ease, and confidence.

Why Perfectionism Is More Common Than You Think

You're not the only one who lies awake overanalyzing every decision or who feels like they're barely holding it together even though everything looks perfect on the outside. So many high-achieving, thoughtful people, silently battle perfectionism, afraid that letting their guard down will mean falling apart.

You might assume that others have it figured out while you’re the only one struggling. But perfectionism thrives in isolation. The truth is, the pressure to always do more, be better, or never let anyone down is incredibly common. It shows up a lot for adults navigating identity, relationships, career, and expectations that feel impossible to meet.

You’re not doing it “wrong”. You’re coping the best way you know how. Therapy can help you understand where these patterns come from and begin building a new relationship with success, rest, and self-worth.

Even the strongest hearts need soft places to land.

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Hours
Monday, Tuesday, Thursday, Friday
12pm–7pm

Location
Virtual, Connecticut

Perfectionism Therapy in Connecticut: Find Balance Beyond “Perfect”

If you’re exhausted from trying to be perfect all the time, you’re not alone. Perfectionism can feel like a tangled web of pressure, anxiety, and self-doubt that’s hard to escape. But therapy can help you gently unravel those patterns, so you can stop striving to be flawless and start living with more emotional clarity, personal growth, and inner strength.

Together, we’ll explore the beliefs and habits that keep you stuck, and build practical tools to help you manage perfectionism without sacrificing your well-being. It’s possible to let go of the constant need to “do it right” and discover a more peaceful, balanced way of living.

Perfectionism Therapy: What to Expect

During our first session, we’ll explore how perfectionism shows up in your life. This may look like setting impossibly high standards, difficulty saying no, overworking yourself, or constantly self-criticizing. We’ll work together to set meaningful goals that feel manageable and aligned with what you truly want.

Treatment plans are collaborative and are tailored to your own needs based on evidence-based approaches to help you build healthier habits and a kinder relationship with yourself. Here are a few techniques I often use with clients struggling with perfectionism:

Boundary Work: Learn to recognize your limits, practice saying no without guilt, and protect your time and energy.

Self-Compassion Practices: Soften your inner critic and cultivate a more understanding, supportive inner voice.

Cognitive-Behavioral Tools: Identify and gently challenge perfectionistic thinking patterns to reduce anxiety and stress.

Solution-Focused Therapy: Tap into your strengths to develop practical, doable steps toward balance and ease.

Narrative Therapy: Explore and rewrite the stories you tell yourself about worth, success, and failure to create a more empowering outlook.

You don’t have to stay stuck in survival mode. With therapy, anxiety symptoms can shift and you can finally feel more calm, connected, and in control of your life.

Frequently Asked Questions

  • Perfectionism isn’t just about high standards—it can lead to burnout, anxiety, people-pleasing, and a constant feeling of “never enough.” If you're feeling overwhelmed, exhausted, or stuck in self-criticism, therapy can help you explore what’s underneath and find healthier ways to cope.

  • Therapy won’t erase your drive—but it can help you shift from rigid, self-punishing standards to goals rooted in self-respect and balance. You’ll learn to set boundaries, manage anxiety, and develop a more compassionate relationship with yourself.

  • Not at all. Therapy can actually enhance your performance by helping you approach challenges with more clarity, flexibility, and confidence—without burning yourself out in the process.

  • I draw from evidence-based methods like Cognitive Behavioral Therapy, Solution-Focused Therapy, Narrative Therapy, and somatic approaches like Brainspotting. We’ll focus on practical skills like boundary setting, saying no without guilt, and softening your inner critic.

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