Polyamorous Relationship Therapy in Connecticut
Struggling to navigate the complexities of a polyamorous or ethically non-monogamous relationship?
Because your relationship deserves support, just like anyone else’s.
Have you ever thought…
“How do we navigate communication with all of us involved?”
“I love the people I’m with! But it’s hard when our needs or boundaries don’t align.”
“We don’t want to follow a ‘traditional’ model of relationships, but we still want support.”
“Time management, navigating breakups, new partners... where do we even begin?”
If any of that sounds familiar, you’re not alone. More importantly, you’re not doing it wrong.
Just like monogamous couples, polycules and CNM relationships sometimes benefit from support navigating the complex, beautiful, and sometimes challenging terrain of love, communication, and connection. Therapy isn’t about forcing your relationship into a narrow mold, it’s about giving you the tools and space to thrive in the relationship structure you’ve chosen.
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Mondays, Tuesdays, Thursdays, Fridays Evening Appointments Available
Even the Healthiest Polycules Can Struggle Sometimes
You’ve put in the work. You’ve had the hard conversations, made your relationship agreements, communicated your needs. But sometimes, even with the best of intentions and love all around, things still feel tangled.
Perhaps one partner feels left out or unseen.
Maybe scheduling has turned into a stress spiral.
It could be that insecurity has crept in, and no one’s quite sure how to name it.
Or maybe a new connection has shifted the dynamic and you’re all adjusting in real time.
These challenges don’t mean your relationship is failing. They mean you’re human.
In polyamorous and CNM structures, there are more people, more emotions, more needs to navigate. Yet often, very few models or roadmaps for how to do it well. Therapy offers a space for all members of your relationship system to feel heard, respected, and supported. Together, we can build the skills to deepen your communication, clarify your agreements, and reconnect with the love that brought you together in the first place.
With the right support, it’s possible to slow down the cycle, understand what’s really going on beneath the surface, and find new ways to show up for each other, in ways that actually work.
Support for Polycules: What Therapy Can Deliver
Whether you’re a triad, quad, V, or another unique constellation, polycule therapy creates space for your relationship(s) to thrive. With clarity, connection, and care.
This isn’t about choosing sides or deciding who’s “right.” It’s about making room for every voice and experience. In our work together, we’ll focus on:
Strengthening Communication: Learn how to express needs, set boundaries, and truly listen, so each person feels valued and understood.
Navigating Jealousy & Insecurity: Explore what’s beneath the surface without judgment and build tools for self-regulation and reassurance.
Clarifying Relationship Agreements: Whether you’re defining fluid dynamics or revisiting long-held agreements, we’ll find shared understanding and alignment.
Addressing Power Imbalances: Examine roles, expectations, and emotional labor to help all partners feel safe and respected.
Coping with External Stigma: Process the impact of being non-monogamous in a mononormative world, from family rejection to workplace stress.
Polyamory isn’t a problem. But just like any relationship model, it takes intentionality, reflection, and care to sustain. Therapy offers that space.
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Client Days
Mondays, Tuesdays, Thursdays, Fridays Evening Appointments Available
Polyamorous Therapy: What to Expect
Every polycule is different and that’s exactly the point. Therapy with me isn’t about fitting your relationship into a mold. It’s about honoring your unique structure, values, and needs with care and intention.
Our sessions are collaborative and affirming. You can expect:
A Foundation of Safety and Consent
We’ll create an emotionally safe space where each person has the opportunity to speak, reflect, and be heard, without pressure, judgment, or performance. We work at the pace that feels right for your system.
Gottman-Informed Tools, Adapted for Ethical Non-Monogamy
You’ll learn practical relationship tools like how to manage conflict, build emotional intimacy, and repair after a rupture. Therapy will be rooted in Gottman’s research and tailored for polyamorous dynamics. Think of it as building your relationship “house” with stronger scaffolding.
A Feminist, LGBTQIA2S+ Affirming Framework
Power matters. So does identity. We’ll explore how social location, gender roles, trauma, and culture shape your relationships and communication. All identities and relational orientations are seen, affirmed, and respected here.
Shared Goals, Not Sides
I’m not here to pick winners or “fix” anyone. I’m here to help your relationship system move toward deeper clarity, connection, and mutual care. This may look like that renegotiating boundaries, healing past wounds, or simply communicating more effectively.
An Emphasis on Equity and Mutuality
Who speaks? Who defers? Who carries the emotional labor? Together, we’ll explore the dynamics that may be playing out under the surface and how to create more balanced, equitable relationships.
Frequently Asked Questions
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Yes, and not just from textbooks.
I’m a queer therapist who brings both lived experience and formal education to this work. My background includes a degree in Women and Gender Studies, where I explored how gender, sexuality, race, class, ability, and culture intersect within systems of power. During my clinical training, I focused specifically on gender-affirming care, supporting clients through identity exploration, religious trauma, coming out, and the complexities of being queer in a non-affirming world.I know how validating it can feel to talk to someone who doesn’t need a primer on your experience, someone who already speaks the language and holds space without judgment. My goal is to create that kind of space for you: one where your story is honored, your identity is never questioned, and your healing can truly begin.
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Not necessarily. While some sessions may involve everyone in the polycule, there may be times when it’s helpful to meet with individuals, dyads, or smaller groupings. We’ll collaborate to create a structure that supports your goals and reflects your relational dynamics.
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Absolutely not. Polyamory isn’t a problem to be solved. It’s a valid and ethical relationship orientation. Therapy isn’t about making you monogamous or deciding the “right” way to relate. It’s about helping your unique relationship system thrive, on your terms.
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